What We Have Here is a Failure to Communicate

The failure probably comes from all sides but in stressful situations one tends to feel the victim more often than the offender.

But we have questions we feel are legitimate. A simple set of facts outlines the dilemma.

  • Mother is 84.
  • Mother has Alzheimer disease.
  • Mother goes to doctors visits.
  • Mother was incapable of living alone.

Now the  facts of communication failure.

  • Three of five children contact Mother at least weekly.
  • Two of five children only talk to Mother.
  • One of five children asks questions about Mother health and behavior as well as caregivers.

That is the Failure to Communicate. How can you talk to an 84 year old suffering Alzheimer and hope to understand the situation Mom is going through? Puzzling. Are they too taken with their life that they can’t take the time to talk to the people that care for her 24/7? Are they lacking any bit of curiosity to see what is actually happening? Do they believe that talking to Mom for 10 minutes once or twice a week or taking her for four hours on a Sunday really gives them the lowdown on what her life is like? Are they unwilling to look at this situation because it is their Mom and it is a fact?

I really don’t have a clue, because as the guard said in “Cool Hand Luke”:

“What we have here is a failure to communicate.”