Category: Alzheimers

Can a patient be asked to leave a memory care facility due to aggression, anger, and other bad behavior with no notice?

“Yes, they can refuse to take him back. It sounds as if his behavior is the problem and he probably disturbs other residents. Behavior can also become a safety issue if he is combative. Just as the facility can refuse to take him back, your mother can do the same. Simply tell the hospital that […]

A Sad Conversation

Mom and I talked a bit when she came home from Joe’s today. I had spoken with Kathy and she told me Mom had a good day. Here dear, old friend Queenie came to visit, and it has probably been a year since she last saw her. Queenie had called in the past but it […]

Lack of Caring

This is when being a caregiver gives one pause. The daily interactions with Mom are remote. She seldom talks. She doesn’t go outside very much. Only seems to exhibit OCD behavior when it comes to the couch covers being straight and the dog toys being put in the basket. We suggest things, buy puzzles, word […]

Taking Laps, Inside

I know it is a classic Alzheimer symptom, but Mom’s pacing seems to be increasing. Last night it seemed she couldn’t get settled. She was up from her chair, into the living room, into her bedroom, back to the chair, up from the chair to the patio door, back to the chair, into the kitchen, […]

What We Have Here is a Failure to Communicate

The failure probably comes from all sides but in stressful situations one tends to feel the victim more often than the offender. But we have questions we feel are legitimate. A simple set of facts outlines the dilemma. Mother is 84. Mother has Alzheimer disease. Mother goes to doctors visits. Mother was incapable of living […]


If you open a 2 lb tub of margarine on May 17th, how long will it take to use all of it? Right now, it is 3/4 empty. Mom and her toast. I have never bought so many english muffins, bagels, and loaves of bread in my life. I came home last night and she […]

Dietary Restrictions

We need to limit and eliminate chocolate from our diets. It isn’t a new allergy or issues with weight. No, that would be logical and self imposed. This means no chocolate bars. No cookies with chocolate in them. Chocolate bars? Done. Brownies, cakes? Not chocolate. What brought us to this decision? Mom. She feeds the […]

Is it Wrong?

Is it wrong when Mom wants to wipe down the table with her dinner napkin? Is it wrong that I ask her not to? Is it wrong when she gets pissy and calls herself dumb in a way meant to inflict guilt, but unfortunately with me there is no guilt? Is it wrong that she […]

Fear in the Act of Walking

There is fear in the act of walking. Not fear about stumbling and falling. Not scared of a dog bite. No, the fear of Mom deciding it would be ok to go for a walk on her own during the day while Kathy and I are at work. We have locked the gate in the […]

Mothers Day

Mothers Day has come and gone. Yesterday I worked so I wasn’t around for a good chunk of it. Joe took Mom and Kathy and the girls spent the day together. Things got a bit interesting when Mom got back from Joe’s. She had flowers from her daughter in Houston, flowers from her granddaughter. Flowers […]

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