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A Caregivers Plight

Marriage is a partnership. Mothers-in-law count. Maybe that is why most companies give you bereavement pay when an in law passes. The partnership should work even when the mother in law is living. It shouldn’t be left up to only one in the relationship, the son, to give Mom a break once a week from […]

What We Have Here is a Failure to Communicate

The failure probably comes from all sides but in stressful situations one tends to feel the victim more often than the offender. But we have questions we feel are legitimate. A simple set of facts outlines the dilemma. Mother is 84. Mother has Alzheimer disease. Mother goes to doctors visits. Mother was incapable of living […]

Back from Joe’s

How was Joe? (head nod, I’m not sure she understands) How was Joe (again, in case she didn’t get it the first time.) Head nod. No verbal answer. How was Kathy? (head nod) She got up and left. Went to her room. We don’t think she went for a walk or anything because we don’t […]

The Dog Bowl

We have two bowls for our dog Pepper Ann. An indoor bowl and an outdoor bowl. Simple enough. Not the same shape, both chrome however. The outdoor bowl only gets used in the spring, summer, and fall. That is when Pepper loves to rule the yard. Early this week, Kathy saw Mom emptying the outdoor […]

Not Real Sociable

Mom is not real sociable. Whenever the kids are around she scampers off to her room and shuts the door. The only time she stays with us is if we are eating dinner. After she does the dishes, off she goes. We don’t get a hello unless we say it to her. We could go […]

Fathers Day

It’s Fathers Day. Joe, Mom’s son took her this weekend after taking last weekend off. Joe and Kathy had to get a way for the weekend. They were traveling to Grand Rapids for their anniversary. This weekend Joe came yesterday and took her for about 4 hours. Couldn’t do it today because it’s Fathers Day. […]


If you open a 2 lb tub of margarine on May 17th, how long will it take to use all of it? Right now, it is 3/4 empty. Mom and her toast. I have never bought so many english muffins, bagels, and loaves of bread in my life. I came home last night and she […]

Now Means Now

Small things that have Kathy and I wondering if sometimes we are too structured and we don’t let things roll off. We had dinner. I had cleaned most of the pans and Kathy was going to work in the kitchen to clean the other items not yet done. Mom does the dishes. She cleans the […]

Dietary Restrictions

We need to limit and eliminate chocolate from our diets. It isn’t a new allergy or issues with weight. No, that would be logical and self imposed. This means no chocolate bars. No cookies with chocolate in them. Chocolate bars? Done. Brownies, cakes? Not chocolate. What brought us to this decision? Mom. She feeds the […]

Is it Wrong?

Is it wrong when Mom wants to wipe down the table with her dinner napkin? Is it wrong that I ask her not to? Is it wrong when she gets pissy and calls herself dumb in a way meant to inflict guilt, but unfortunately with me there is no guilt? Is it wrong that she […]

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