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Dementia is an Insidious Disease   Well worth the read.

Can a patient be asked to leave a memory care facility due to aggression, anger, and other bad behavior with no notice?

“Yes, they can refuse to take him back. It sounds as if his behavior is the problem and he probably disturbs other residents. Behavior can also become a safety issue if he is combative. Just as the facility can refuse to take him back, your mother can do the same. Simply tell the hospital that […]

The Calendar

Calendars mark time, they are used by most of us to relate to future events. To dinners with friends or a night out with a loved one. Doctors appointments, trips to the vet, school plays, all displayed and noted to keep track of your life. Sometimes you use a calendar to relate to the past. […]

A Life Condensed in 20 Minutes

Like it or not we are sometimes measured by our possessions. Bigger house, bigger car, closets full of trendy clothes all contribute to our feelings of worth. We have more we feel like we are “more.” We moved Mom into assisted living a couple of months ago. I took some time off and I needed […]

A Sad Conversation

Mom and I talked a bit when she came home from Joe’s today. I had spoken with Kathy and she told me Mom had a good day. Here dear, old friend Queenie came to visit, and it has probably been a year since she last saw her. Queenie had called in the past but it […]


MSNBC is rebroadcasting the terrible events of 9/11. Mom has been sitting and watching. She hasn’t said a word. I don’t know whether to tell her this is from 13 years ago or if she would even know. She doesn’t know the name of the president or the year so I’m looking at this somewhat […]


Vacation with Mom and the folks from Seattle. A nice place on the bay in northern Michigan. 8 days away from the grind of life. We’ve been back about 3 weeks, and I’ve taken a bit of a break. Not much has happened that is earth shaking or life changing. The drone of life continues. […]

Lack of Caring

This is when being a caregiver gives one pause. The daily interactions with Mom are remote. She seldom talks. She doesn’t go outside very much. Only seems to exhibit OCD behavior when it comes to the couch covers being straight and the dog toys being put in the basket. We suggest things, buy puzzles, word […]

Taking Laps, Inside

I know it is a classic Alzheimer symptom, but Mom’s pacing seems to be increasing. Last night it seemed she couldn’t get settled. She was up from her chair, into the living room, into her bedroom, back to the chair, up from the chair to the patio door, back to the chair, into the kitchen, […]

Another Day Another Excuse

Well, the local “son” won’t be picking Mom up today. The once a week for 4 or 5 hours respite from us, and interaction with her family is once again put on hold. Last week it was on call. This week it is a sewer back up. So it will be three weeks if we […]

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